St.Thomas Aquinas in the 13th century enumerated the seven deadly sins as pride, envy, anger, sloth, greed, gluttony and lust. Over the years with changes in attitudes, technology, conveniences and social mores, these seven sins have become out of date for most people. A BBC survey reports a distinct change in the attitudes towards sin. How does this apply to the modern miss or missus?
Pride–Well! The first lesson taught to any woman is to develop self confidence, self esteem and pride in your achievements. The days when the meek and mild Miss(us) hid her talents and achievements under a billowing veil and simpering smile is passé. These are the days when you have to shout from the rooftops about yourself and what you are capable of doing to make an impact in the rat race or even within the four walls of your nuclear home.
Envy–immortalised in the media in advertisements, envy is the modern mantra chanted to sell anything from shampoos and fairness cream to cracked heels and toe polish, from washing machines and TV’s to houses and holidays. Nowadays it is a positive emotion darling!
Anger/Wrath–People seem to be less bothered by anger than by cruelty says the report. Anger management is the next best lesson after stress management in modern soft skills training. Remember that you cannot show anger to your child or to your spouse as you can be hauled up for cruelty. And as for road rage, hold it in rein or you could be in worse trouble. Above all heed the warning that anger adds age lines to your face!
Sloth–Come on! One of the basic rules to escape the hurly-burly of modern life is to sit back and watch the grass grow, the birds fly, the clouds float and to laze on your bed on a Sunday morning and wait for your partner to treat you to a cuppa in bed. The introduction of BPO’s, call centres, shifts and flexi-time in the workplace has changed concepts of night and day, morn and evening. Of course the pressures against idleness, of being a ‘mere housewife’ and not doing ‘something’ with your spare time is much more for the 21st century woman
Greed–It is the only original deadly sin that still has validity in current value systems. You can aspire to lead a high-quality existence, you can desire the good things of life, you can be occasionally selfish and say ‘I deserve what I have because I have worked for it’, but pure selfishness is definitely anti-social behaviour, a real sin.
Gluttony–Associated with food, this too is a no-no sin in keeping with figure consciousness, health and fitness concerns and social awareness about the existence of economical deprivations and poverty line existences. In spite of all these high sounding issues the exploration of culinary diversity, nouvelle cuisine and the art of entertainment and eating out, permits enjoyment of occasional binges. In short ‘eat your heart out’ is still a panache in moments of distress for most women.
Lust–Explore, enjoy and satisfy your libidinal desire is the advice given by every woman’s magazine, talk show and lonely heart’s club. So lust is not something to hide behind closed doors, in the darkened bedroom for the modern woman. It is also a tool that can be used to revive tired marriages, sluggish relationships and indifferent partners. Lust helps to sell goods, to market cinema, serials and books and titillate jaded interests. Sex is no more a taboo word and lust is not an unspeakable four letter word. Strangely enough adultery is still considered a sin.
Cruelty, adultery, bigotry, dishonesty, hypocrisy, greed and selfishness have been voted the new sins that are unforgivable to the now-gen according to the survey. Actions that hurt others especially children in family situations is considered the deadliest of sins.