Traditionally, the accepted height differences between a couple is that the man is taller and the woman shorter. My parents were a classic example of this with a foot difference between them. In Indian arranged marriages the first check point is height and inevitable parents of a tall girl find it difficult to get a groom taller than their daughter.
This rule is strangely enough adhered to both by girls and boys. Mills and Boon romances talk about a tall dark handsome hero as the dream figure for the heroines. This is perpetuated by social traditions and customs. When there were child marriages, this norm was sometimes negated as the girl would shoot up after puberty while the boy would remain short or remain an average height. The differences in height was accepted but with a bit of raillery from relatives and neighbours.
Once the marriages began to be fixed when the boy and girl were in the teens or early twenties, the boy being taller became a necessity.
Nowadays, there are quite a few couples who choose their own partners. A few do not mind differences in height and tall girls do not mind shorter men. Of course, women who select partners of the same height or slight differences rue the fact that they have to forgo wearing heels!!
Here are some statistics…
The average woman is eight percent shorter than her male partner.
- In one survey, about half of collegiate men said that their date had to be shorter and nine out of every ten women said they would only date taller men.
- Online dating women or the ones in search of a partner calculate how tall they are in their highest heels, add a few inches for safety and then filter out men who fall below that height.
- Height prejudice can be so telling! One guy changed his height on his profile from his real 5’4″ to an average 5’9″. Guess what, the responses to his profile doubled.
There are any number of celebrity couples in the West, especially in Hollywood who are happy with this situation. Women are gradually accepting that some great relationships can be achieved with shorter men.
A preliminary study says that shorter men actually make better partners:
- They take on a greater share of housework.
- They earn a higher salary
- They are less likely to get divorced.
So next time you see a tall woman with a shorter partner, bite your tongue before you say….The Tall and Short of it!!
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